Imperfect and Normal Families like yours and mine want to have meaningful conversations, but they don't always come easy. A husband or wife can often get so busy that he or she fails to engage in life-giving conversation with his or her spouse. The result is that we get disconnected and end up passing like "two ships in the night." And that's not good for anybody.
What we might occasionally need is a simple conversation starter that you can kick around over dinner or after the kids are in bed. Tracey Eyster of FamilyLife recently posted a great list of 30 great questions that you can ask each other as a means to quickly connect. They don't explore any deep issues of life, but the questions do have the potential to help you re-focus on each other in the midst of a busy day.
For those people who are uber-creative, you could cut the questions into little slips, put them into a box, and then draw out one a day for thirty days. Or you could just use a few tonight to get a good conversation going. Here's the list...
30 Ways to Start a Conversation with Your Spouse
By Tracey Eyster
1. My funniest memory of our dating days is when …
2. Our kids would freak out if they knew we …
3. Before we are together in heaven, I pray that here on earth we …
4. I have this memory of you in a certain outfit. Remember …
5. The most scared you have ever been was …
6. The happiest you have ever been was …
7. I remember thinking I was courageous when I was young because I …
8. I used to always wish I could …
9. If I could spend a day just talking to any one person, it would be …
10. I wish I had learned to …
11. I picture us old, sitting in a rocking chair and you looking over at me and saying, “Daggum it, we never …”
12. If I could spend 24 hours doing anything in the world with you, it would be …
13. I like it best when you refer to me as …
14. The song that always makes me think of you is …
15. My sweetest memory of us in our youth is when we …
16. My favorite memory of our wedding day is …
17. My greatest need right now as a woman is to …
18. My greatest need right now as a man is to …
19. If I could have any super power, it would be …
20. If I could eat anything and it not affect my health, I would feast on …
21. If I could have lived during a different time period, it would be …
22. I laugh every time I think of you doing …
23. I would so enjoy reading out loud together …
24. If we could be roadies for any musical talent, I would choose …
25. If I had it to do over, I would propose to you by …
26. The world’s best anniversary trip would be to go to …
27. My favorite photo of us is the one where …
28. Did you know that it scares me so much to …
29. When we fell in love, my favorite thing about you back then was …
30. I feel you love me the most when you …This article originally appeared on MomLife Today, FamilyLife's blog for moms.
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